This week, one of the prompts from Mama Kat's caught my eye. 3.) Married? Tell us the story of how the question was popped. Let me start by saying, I have never been married, and I am not even engaged to the boyfriend, though it's been 4 1/2 pretty incredible years and 3 amazing children.
However, I was engaged in my previous relationship, which lasted a little over 4 years and was broken off less than 6 months before the wedding. And the proposal was pretty awesome.
We were on vacation at Disney World, which is quite possibly my favorite place ever (and I can't wait until I can take my kids there, so I don't have to be embarrassed about wanting to go on the Dumbo ride). I thought we were just going on a week-long vacation because it was winter break from college, and one of my friends worked at the Magic Kingdom at the time. She and I met when I was 4 years old and she was working at the now non-existent hotel (The Disney Inn) that my parents and I were staying at.
Anyway, we were staying in the concierge suites at the Grand Floridian (my ex's family had a lot of money-I never stayed in fancy-schmancy hotels like that before or since). I was completely focused on going to all the theme parks and going on the rides (the ex wasn't since he was in a wheelchair and couldn't go on any rides-I was 19 and kind of selfish and ignored him most of the time).
He surprised me with a private dinner. We were alone on a beautiful balcony with our own personal waiter. I can't remember what we ate, but as it got dark, the fireworks over the Magic Kingdom started. We had an incredible view. All of a sudden, there was a plate with a slice of key lime pie in front of me. When I finally looked at it (the fireworks were distracting), there was a crystal Cinderella slipper on the plate with the ring in it.
I cried. A lot. It was pretty awesome. So was the ring. It was a tension ring that I had been looking at with his grandmother's blue diamond set in it.
It was really romantic and wonderful. Even though the relationship didn't work out (which was definitely a good thing-we were not compatible at all). I did give the ring back when we broke up, only because the diamond had sentimental value and when you get a tension ring, it is set for that diamond only. A little part of me wishes I kept it, but I know that would have been wrong.
I know eventually I will get engaged again, but right now paying for things for the kids far outweighs getting a ring or having a wedding. When it does happen, though, I will be picking out the same setting because I really do love it. Until then, I'm thankful I am in a relationship with someone who I am compatible with and that we made 3 amazing kids together.
He surprised me with a private dinner. We were alone on a beautiful balcony with our own personal waiter. I can't remember what we ate, but as it got dark, the fireworks over the Magic Kingdom started. We had an incredible view. All of a sudden, there was a plate with a slice of key lime pie in front of me. When I finally looked at it (the fireworks were distracting), there was a crystal Cinderella slipper on the plate with the ring in it.
I cried. A lot. It was pretty awesome. So was the ring. It was a tension ring that I had been looking at with his grandmother's blue diamond set in it.
This is what it looked like |
It was really romantic and wonderful. Even though the relationship didn't work out (which was definitely a good thing-we were not compatible at all). I did give the ring back when we broke up, only because the diamond had sentimental value and when you get a tension ring, it is set for that diamond only. A little part of me wishes I kept it, but I know that would have been wrong.
I know eventually I will get engaged again, but right now paying for things for the kids far outweighs getting a ring or having a wedding. When it does happen, though, I will be picking out the same setting because I really do love it. Until then, I'm thankful I am in a relationship with someone who I am compatible with and that we made 3 amazing kids together.
I admire your ability to look at the good things out of that relationship - I have trouble with that one...
ReplyDeleteWhat a great story. It is pretty wonderful that you can enjoy the story and the experience still even though it didn't work out.
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